Self disclosure and online dating
People who make intimate disclosures too early in relationships are often perceived as insecure, which further decreases likeability. First, a person has to make a self-disclosure that is neither too general nor too intimate.
Social shaping of technology approaches (Dutton, 1996; Mac Kenzie & Wajcman, 1985; Woolgar, 1996) acknowledge the ways in which information and communication technologies (ICTs) both shape and are shaped by social practices.
Disclosures should be made over a long period of time to ensure that the relationship slowly increases in intensity and closeness.
A steady trickle of personal information increases the longevity of the relationship because each partner continually feels the closeness that comes with self-disclosures. People who make personal disclosures become vulnerable to the person to whom the disclosures are made.
People feel a sense of closeness to others who reveal their vulnerabilities, innermost thoughts, and facts about themselves.
The sense of closeness increases if the disclosures are emotional rather than factual.